Big fake breasts turn me on, although I don’t want sex with a woman
I’m a 25-year-old woman and have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 18 months. I consider myself heterosexual but I’ve always had an attraction to big fake breasts. This started in my teenage years. I always marvelled at how these ladies attracted men, and pictured myself in their shoes, which would turn me on. Even now I find myself looking at pornographic images containing women with very large fake breasts. I’m not attracted to other aspects of women, and do not desire sex with a woman.
Erotic female images are more prevalent than male images, so even for heterosexual women they can become erotic triggers. In fact, many young heterosexual women are disappointed to find that at first they struggle to feel aroused by the sight of the male body, which they’ve rarely seen depicted. Conditioned responses can take many forms and, given that obviously augmented breasts are commonly seen in the media, yours is perfectly expectable. You already understand how you internalise these images – you’re not directly excited by them but use them as a model for yourself and imagine having such attributes. What’s actually turning you on is the sexual power you believe the owners of such breasts can acquire. As you become more confident to use the body you were born with to give and receive pleasure, you will become less interested in taking such an indirect route to sexual empowerment.
• Pamela Stephenson Connolly is a US-based psychotherapist specialising in sexual disorders